By Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
There is a fine line between self-confidence and narcissism and a way to avoid crossing it which I discuss in this video.
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I have been doing a series called, “Stupid Interview Mistakes” and I have avoided this 1 for a while but it is time to present it. That’s because recognizing the difference between the 2 becomes important. I call it, “Crossing the Fine Line Between Between Self-confidence and Narcissism.” How do you know that you have crossed the line?
The answer is when it is not justified or you have not made the case for the fact that you deserve to be seen as an expert is something in particular. Where what you are doing just comes across as being brash, boastful, or just plain obnoxious.
You see, most people make the mistake of just diving right in that they are the best they are just wonderful, They arts terrific and they start acting almost Tarzan-like beating their chest, which lets people know that their knowledge is very thin. Most people associate that kind of behavior with bravado (another term for someone being narcissistic. That is when the behavior seems bravado that causes people to get you
You never want people to doubt you. You want people to think for themselves, ” Let me just blow this person right out of the water with a question that’s just designed to destroy them.” You have to build up to the point of demonstrating your competence and how terrific you are in the course of the interview so that others so that others conclude that you are self-confident and that you deserve to be seen as an expert.
Once you’ve crossed the line into narcissism, you have no shot. Let it build. Let it grow iin the person’s mind. You don’t walk in there with your chest puffed out feeling so big and so bad that there is no basis for conducting yourself in that way. People like individuals who are open more humble. They make the case in their manner and in their style and in their answers that they deserve to be seen in a particular way.
You do not announce and behave as though you are saying, “I AM WONDERFUL!” I’m sure you’ve seen it many times in social situations and that shows up on interviews, too.
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